A Thank YOU and An A-Ha Moment About Life and Babies

First of all, welcome to my new followers, old followers, Bigs & Littles Blogging Network ladies (you can still sign up and read more about it HERE)

I cannot tell you how wonderful it has been to see new messages from y'all, to read the surveys you have been filling out for Bigs & Littles, it's just been amazing. And blog growth? Wowzers. 

I feel like I was hugged 100 million times yesterday.

Wonderful.

That's the only word I have for it, because as of this morning, there are 152 bloggers signed up! You're all just fabulous!

Expect a very long post up tomorrow(a Saturday! This is unheard of!) from me, I want to touch on a couple things a lot of bloggers were wanting to learn about, and then I'll be burying myself in visiting each and every blog that has signed up; to take notes and look around so that I can find you the very best partners!

Have an amazing Friday lovely ladies!!

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Written 1/29/2013

Couples Negril Resort: Negril, Jamaica December 2012

Guys Gals, 
I had one of those a-ha! moments the other night. Like, wow, never thought of it that way moments.

So after the Bachelor(this is how all deep marital conversations get started) I started grilling The Husband about life, love and babies.

I don't know about the rest of you but baby fever is like a never ending wave of fever.
Some days I have a temp of 110 and others I'm at 98.6

So I'm asking him the usuals, do you want kids(he changes his answer so I ask this a lot, so maybe that's why he keeps changing his answer) would you be ok if we didn't have kids, what would we do if we didn't have kids, do you ever feel like you're getting too old?(this is a valid question to ask him since he'll be 30 in a few months and we're 3+ years from considering kids)
And then after he gave me his usual uncommitted, open ended answers, he asked me, what timeline are you on? What's your energy level right now? 

And about 2 minutes later, it dawned on me.
I'm the one creating this timeline of acceptable ages to be a parent. 
I want to be young enough for my body to snap back into place, young enough to run and chase and be silly.

But that's almost all about attitude and energy. No parent is ever the right age. You're never going to have unlimited energy, and there is something that won't snap back into place.

And my husband doesn't think there is a magic age that is too old for kids, as he put it, until I'm in or very near my 40's.

Who says I have to be under 29 to be pregnant? I know, women are waiting longer to have kids, but when you get married at 23, you don't think that that would ever be you.

I am the one thinking, I have to have kids before I'm 30.
I am the one who is trying to plan our lives on the mysterious future.
I am the one who has pulled a number out of a hat.

And yet, that's not real life, that won't be our lives! 
We can wait. We can wait as long as we want, be young and travel, or be young and together, it doesn't matter, because we have time.

Is this making sense? 

We can start next year or we can start in 10 years, and it doesn't matter. 
We're on our own timeline. 
Even if we can't read it yet.

Couples Negril Resort: Negril, Jamaica December 2012